Everything you need to know about calling men, voice mail messages, IMs, text messages etc.
Here I will address some of the questions I have recently received from women. Feel free to send me your question or leave a comment on this post or anywhere else on this blog and I will answer it in a later article. Now, here are some of the questions I received:
- Should I leave messages if my boyfriend does not answer my calls?
First of all, it depends on the situation. What is your relationship situation? Did you break up? When you last saw him, did you argue? What was the dynamics of the relationship before he stopped answering your phone calls? What do you mean when you say “your boyfriend”?
Now, since you didn’t provide any of that info, I will answer generally speaking and what the protocol is.
When you call, if you call first, you leave a message once. After that, do not call him anymore. The ball is in his court. He calls you back – great! He doesn’t call you back, well, you’ve just had your answer.
But what if? My dear, there are “no if’s” in dating. Take my word for it. But what if he is upset? But what if this is something I said?
If those are the kind of questions that are running in your head, listen up. If a man is upset and wants to resolve the situation, he will call you and try to work it out. If you are always the one to call him to discuss your differences, he will treat you like a push over. He’ll know that you’ll always go back to him. He just won’t take you seriously anymore. I knew this girl who was dating a guy who was a commitment phobic. So, she talked to him once in a while about taking their relationships to the next level and he always backed off. Then she’d break it off with him. She broke up with him so many times, but every time they broke up she’d call him a week later and try to work things out. He got so used to it that he didn’t even take her seriously anymore. He finally got tired of that drag and dumped her.
- What to do when a man I’ve been seeing does not respond to my phone calls?
First of all, I strongly believe that a woman should not even be calling a man in the beginning of a relationship. If you have been “seeing” each other, that particular wording suggests that you are still in the beginning of a relationship. If you called first and he does not call back, move on.
But what if he finally calls? This is bad news already. If he doesn’t call, he is not that interested. If he “finally” calls, that means he calls you at the last minute when the girl he called first cancelled on him.
Generally speaking, there is only one rule for calling men in dating and that is Do Not Call Him! Not convinced yet? Click Here!