What to write to men on a dating site, how to communicate with men on a dating site and how to get a man to meet you via on line dating are the questions that many single women ask me. And they have a reason to. The way you communicate with a man on a dating site can significantly impact his decision to meet you in person. See many women make a huge mistake when they write to men on dating sites. Even when a man initiates contact via online dating site, women often mess up and the man loses his interest. This page talks about the biggest mistakes women make that mess up their chances of meeting a good man on a dating site. Here is an e-mail I received from a reader.
When I talk to men online on a dating site I write lots of details about my daily activities, about my work, my kids’ school, even my dog. I put a lot of thought into each e-mail I write to a man on a dating site. This is also the kind of information I am looking for from the men I write to. I ask men lots of questions in my e-mails. I ask them about their day, about the job and other things about their life. Maybe I am not asking them the right questions or don’t know how to ask so they respond. In return I get very short answers from the men I write to. They don’t answer the questions I ask them in my e-mails. They don’t share much information if any in their e-mail responses. My e-mails to men on a dating site are usually ten times longer than theirs. They usually want to speak on the phone right away. But how am I supposed to get to know someone over the e-mail if they don’t want to open up? How can I get to know a man on a dating site if he doesn’t want to share any personal information? How do I get a man to open up a little via e-mail?
See, a lot of women unknowingly turn great men off on a dating site before they even get a chance to meet, and alas! they end up never meeting a great man who otherwise could have turned out a soul mate.
I talk to many men who date on line. The biggest complaint that I hear from men is, why is it so difficult to meet someone on a dating site? Why do women want to talk endlessly but don’t want to meet? Many men assume that women who write a lot are needy and lonely and don’t have a life. I met a great guy on a dating site whom I ended up dating. When I asked him about how many women he’d met on that same dating site, he said he’d met two women before me. Neither one of them he was attracted to. When I asked why only two, he said, “you know women want to write a lot. I don’t like writing back and fourth for two months. It’s ridiculous.”
“I don’t like writing to a complete stranger either,” I said,” you meet, you size each other up; there is either chemistry or there isn’t.”
“Exactly,” he said, “I guess those women are just lonely and have no one to talk to. I don’t know.”
See, a lot of women believe that you can have chemistry via e-mail. That is not true. Additionally, when a man actually likes writing long e-mails back and forth for a long time, that in most cases means he is not interested in meeting her. I've known men, my male friends, who were not even on the market to date a woman but were communicating with women online on a dating site. When I asked them why they did that, they all said it does good to their ego to see that lots of women are interested in them. At the same time those men were too busy in their own lives and did not have the need or the time to date.
After that incident I never put so much time into a man I’ve never met in person. Just because you think you know somebody through e-mails and phone calls, doesn’t mean you will have chemistry when you meet in person. But if you want to know how to get a man to open up online and how to communicate with men online, sign up for free advice newsletters Click Here