Should I E-Mail Him Again If He Said He Is Not Interested?

Ever been in this situation, you e-mail a guy on a dating site and he e-mails you back saying, thank you for the note but I don’t think we are a match? And then you sit and wonder what to do? But what if he likes me once he sees me? I look better than my pictures. Worse yet, do you e-mail a guy again trying to convince him he just must meet you? Have you been guilty of pleading a guy on a dating site to give you a chance?

Don’t ever do it! If a man doesn’t see that there is a potential from looking at your profile, he is not likely to change his mind even if you somehow convince him to meet you. Granted, if you bug him long enough he may just give up and meet you anyway. And when he is there to meet you, he is already pissed off, because he didn’t want to meet you in the first place.

I’ll give you an example. A friend of mine receives quite a lot of e-mails from women online. Some of those women are rather persistent. For instance, a woman who is older than him will e-mail and when he sends a polite thank you, she’d e-mail him back asking what’s wrong with her, trying to convince him that even though she is a couple of years older, she doesn’t look her age, or that her pictures do not represent her in the best way.

In any case, bugging and pleading a man to meet you ain’t gonna do any good for you. Most men will just block your e-mails, some may meet you just to get laid. Once. And then you will never hear from him again.

Here is how it goes. I am not a man, but I receive lots of repeat e-mails from the same guys on dating sites. Some guys just keep bugging me. Some say, hey, so what are you doing this Tuesday. If you got nothing to do, then perhaps we can meet. You got nothing to lose!

Nothing to lose? What are you talking about? What about my time? Why on earth would I want to spend a couple of hours with someone I have no slightest attraction to?

Example: Here is real e-mail banter:

Him: Hi I liked your profile-can send pic if interested

Me: why would I be interested if I can't see a pic? of course I am not

Him: Hi It means if you have initial interest I can send a pic-I prefer not to broadcast my pic due to my position. If you like I can send a pic but then again you may just not be interested under any circumstance

Me: I don't look at profiles unless I like the pic. since I cant see ur pic in the email I am not going to click on the link to your profile

Him: If you did read the profile you might be interested
Now, he’s bugged me enough for me to get off of my lazy butt and click on the link to his profile. First thing I see is he’s got kids. Not what I am looking for. I don’t read any further. And why is it that people completely disregard other person’s desired match requirements?

Me: If you did read my profile you'd know my requirements for men are no children

Him: They are out out on their own with their own families and houses They are out out on their own with their own families and houses

Huh?? Did I say anywhere that I would consider dating someone whose children do not live at home? I said clearly in my profile “no children”. Don’t ask me why. Just my personal preference. We all have’em, don’t we?

Anyways, I write back: persistent, aren't you? ok, what do you want to do for our date?

This is past midnight and I am sure he is not going to respond till tomorrow. My plan of action? When I get hungry, he can buy me dinner. Once. Did he make me interested in him by his arguments? No. He just made a fool out of himself.

By the same token, when a man is not interested in meeting you, do not try to convince him you are a catch that would make a great couple with him. Even if you succeed at getting him to meet you, do not expect any respect from him. Even if he gives you the benefit of the doubt, most cases you are just going to be dissapointed. Go and look for a man who will be interested in you. To learn how to find the right man Click Here