If He Doesn’t Call You, Does It Mean He Doesn’t Like You?

What does it mean if he doesn’t call you? If he doesn’t call me, does it mean he doesn’t like me? I hear this question a lot. But to give an accurate answer to this question, I would need more information. See, lots of times men don’t call for other reasons. Even though a man who likes you should always call you, some men feel intimidated, some men get busy, etc. There are many reasons men don’t call women they like.

I will give you examples. I men a guy on a dating site. He seemed very much into me. So much that he asked me out right on the spot. We made a date. When I showed up he had something special planned. However, I only had an hour and a half to hang out with him, thus the special things he had planned didn’t happen. We had dinner at a restaurant we met at and I left. When he walked me to my car he tried to kiss me, but unsuccessfully.

He asked me whether I had plans for Friday to which I said, call me, I’d have to look at my schedule. Sure enough, he never called. A couple of weeks later he e-mailed me complimenting me on my new pictures I had just uploaded on my dating profile. I thanked him and asked why he never called. He wrote back saying that he felt I wasn’t attracted to him.

In fact, that happens to lots of men. They feel the woman is not attracted to them, they won’t call. To a man knowing the woman is not attracted to him means rejection.

Just in case you are curious how the story ended, he contacted me again a couple of months later. The e-mail he sent me was the following:

Elaine,I was surprised to see you still on the system when I looked at the "Who viewed" section. You are still the most beautiful woman here. Probably the nicest too.Love your new pictures.

I wrote back saying something like, well I figured you weren’t interested in going out again. He responded:

Thanks for your lovely note. It goes a long way for my ego. No, I have had no luck on the system. In fact, I doubt if there is anyone I felt like dating other than you.You look very beautiful in the red dress with your long hair and perfect makeup. I am jealous of the fellow! I spent some time in South East Asia where my mother moved, and I have business interests. I still have your number. Would you mind if I called?

I said, sure, call me. When he called he sounded somewhat intimidated. However, he asked me out and we spent lovely couple of hours at a restaurant in downtown where we met for lunch. Again, when he walked me to my car he attempted to kiss me. Unsuccessfully once again. Great! I thought, now he is not gonna call me for sure. And why is it that men put so much importance on kisses? In case you ask me why I didn’t kiss him, well, I was not sure I was that attracted to him. You know, sometimes you look at the stability and security of a man as well as his morals and character. When a woman is looking for a serious relationship, at least me, she is interested in those things before chemistry. Granted, chemistry wasn’t there on my part. Now that I got home, I received the following e-mail from him:

Thanks for having lunch with me. I enjoyed it immensely. Unfortunately, there seems to be little between us on your part. I am not used to this in women who interest me.Best wishes. You looked real hot. Wish I could be the object of your desire, but that is not in the cards. I was so proud to be with you, I am sure my stock in Walnut Creek has skyrocketed!

Your figure is incredible. What a body!!! Thanks for having lunch with me. I enjoyed it immensely. Unfortunately, there seems to be little between us on your part. I am not used to this in women who interested me.

Ok, I guess it really wasn’t in the cards and I can care less. But what if something like this has happened to you and you want the man to call you? What do you do to make him call you? Read this page