Online Dating Guide For Women - Say or Not to Say

When writing a dating site profile many of you may be tempted to say certain things in your dating profile. Don’t. Think first. And see why you shouldn’t.

First of all. Never ever say “Don’t want to play games“. Or, “I don’t want a guy who plays games”, etc. Why? Because when you say it, men will not understand what you mean. They say “huh?” It’s not that they (men) don’t feel your pain. It’s because it looks like there is an army of chicks with a loathing to “games” that is borderline pathological. Men don’t understand what you mean by “games“. No one wants to be “played” or be told how great they are and then have your man disappear on you. Worse yet, you find out you are not the only one he is been saying all those things to. Yet, men just don’t get it. It is not like he is just saying all those things to get some sort of benefits. It is just that when he suddenly stops calling, his schedule may have changed, or he is simply not feeling it anymore. The thing is that he does not think the way you are. He does not think “aha! I am playing games now!” Let me recap this. You will continue saying “no players” and “no games” until your PC keyboard is blue but it will happen yet again. Not because all men are players.

And not because they want to play “games”. You give them too much credit. Men are not sophisticated enough to play games. Perhaps they would play “games“, if they could. But they can’t. Men are pretty straight forward creatures by definition. They don’t understand games.

If “games” are what you are referring to is dating multiple women, or trying to date multiple women, read on.

Playing games is a women’s trait. Period. And when you women play games, men do not understand you either. They just think you are not interested and move on. So much for that.

And men can and most certainly will contact multiple women on a dating site. And that is not because they are “players”. That is because men historically have been trained to receive numerous rejections from women, so they don’t put all their eggs in your basket.

And if a man cannot express his feelings as colorful as you, give him the benefit of the doubt. A man’s vocabulary is about one tenth of what yours is. He is not able to express himself verbally as much as you could. Men don’t talk. They act. And the ONLY way to get a man talk endlessly to you is to ask him about how something works. Or ask him something about sports. Or sex. Or some historical event. And if it has something to do with a war, that is even better. He’ll talk you to death. Just remember, if you ever decide to ask any of those questions, you better be laying in bed by then. Because his answer will put you right to sleep.

Women are more than happy being coy and saying “maybe“ when they really mean “yes“, YES!”
Here is what a “maybe” means to a man - “I am not interested and I don’t want to sleep with you, but if you want to pay for dinner, go ahead.” Meaning she wants a free dinner but no kissing.

Secondly, never say “I want a man who knows how to treat a lady”. This is so vague, even I don’t understand what you mean. Men will pass by this statement. If you have specific requirements, say it. But even I, being a woman, do not understand what you mean by that. The only thing that comes to mind is you want him to pay your way. Dinners, drinks, movie tickets and the like. Or perhaps you mean opening doors and sending flowers? If that is what you want, just say it. Most men will gladly do that because it does not take much effort and it pleases you.

Number three. “I want a man who is sensitive”. What the hell is that? Do you mean you want a man who cries? Then you might be looking in the wrong department. And if you say you want a man who is strong and sensitive, isn’t it the same as saying I want a man who is tall but short?

“Dancing like no one’s watching“. This is a personal thing with me, maybe I’m alone in this, and maybe I’m out in left field. But if I see one more woman assert this, in all seriousness, I’m going to gag, because, like no one’s reading.

It’s a nice sentiment. I know. But it’s also more common than farts in a bean factory and c’mon…gals, I’ve seen you in the dance bars. You aren’t dancing like no one’s watching, you’re dancing like you know all the guys are watching and you shake your moneymaker enjoying every moment, every stare and every drooling tongue. So, c’mon…stop with that one, okay?

“Friends first“. Ok, I give up. I really don’t get it. Does it mean you want to go out with a man who has no sexual connotation? Guess what? Men aren’t looking for buddies in a skirt. They don’t even like girls. Sure, they are attracted to them. Sure, they want to have sex with them. But they don’t want to “hang out” with them. Why? Because girls don’t like to drink beer, watch sports, talk politics and look at porn. So, there. Men need you for other reasons. And if you mean talking about shopping and having “stimulating conversations”, you should know that what stimulates you, puts men to sleep and visa versa.

Now, go back, re-read your dating profile and make the necessary changes. Good luck and happy hunting!